Your Appearance

An ideal way to involve your partner in the detail of your life and to begin creating a tight bond is to consult and include him in the way you dress and look. Men want their partner to take a pride in themselves and to put effort into their appearance. A caring partner welcomes the opportunity to have input.

The best way to you go about this is with complete honesty. You politely ask your man to get involved. You inform him that you want your look to please him and you would treasure his involvement. He will agree in a second and you can embark on wonderful journey together. A word of warning, once you agree that your appearance will be jointly agreed upon you must act on his advice, albeit with close involvement by you. You are in effect handing control to him. Below is the way my wife and I go about dressing and styling her.

First we decided on an overall style. Where ever possible you should try to dress in sexy manner. It is more feminine and shows a confidence in your appearance. My wife and I live in a large city so for my wife we have decided on a style we call Conservative Sexy.

Conservative Sexy means that clothes will be flattering, fitting, heels are high where appropriate without a hint of trashy. An example is fitting low hipster jeans with nice leather belt, plus a cotton blouse that gives a peek of tummy, either flat shoes or shoes with a 4-1/2 heels. With her hair and makeup done and her dark glass on my wife looks totally hot. She would typically dress like this during the day if we meet for coffee.

Within the overall style you need to decide on some basic looks. These basic looks are your foundation all year round must haves. For my wife these are jeans and heels, jeans and flat shoes, sporty and runners, day dresses with heels and flat shoes, evening dresses with very high heels. We also have her underwear basics with comfortable cotton during the day or causal outings. For evening she wears tiny tongs, lace bras and stay up stockings.

A recent example of our involvement together is that my wife decided she wanted to change her hair style. Knowing that any change to her appearance affected me she ask my approval which I gladly gave. We then spent about two months looking together at various style and colors. We bought hair style magazines and went through them carefully. We would see people on TV and one or other of us would point colors and styles we liked. I wanted my wife to go more blonde, which is her natural color when she was younger, and to keep her hair quite long. She wanted to go a little shorter and a little darker. We finally agreed on a light honey color and the length to be that of a long bob. We also spent some time choosing a salon as the one she had been going to she was not happy with. I insisted that she went to the top salon in the city even though it was three times the price of the salon she was going to.

Working together on your appearance is a perfect way to begin to gain the detailed closeness that is essential for a devoted relationship. A caring partner who loves you will be delighted to have the opportunity to get this close to you. You gain the opportunity to demonstrate that pleasing him is the most important thing in your life. Handled well love will blossom!

Below is a very helpful video on heels!

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