Problem Solving

In a relationship where both are totally devoted to each other harmony resigns continually. This is because each has a complete understanding of the others needs. Each day is spent in service of the other. The more you give the more you get.

Prior to this you need a method of dealing with problems. Firstly harmony is not created by ducking problems so problems must be dealt with quickly and honestly. The best strategy is deal with the tiny problems right then and there. It is essential that you remain polite and remember to ask for a solution, do not demand one. Use for example, "Will you please not ..." You must not be aggressive or demanding. Remember your beautiful feminine side, let it shine with purity.

There is a very interesting relationship dynamic which comes into play with dealing with problems. The man is the dominant partner in the relationship and his decision must be final in any problem resolution. However a devoted man only seeks to serve, protect and act in the best interests on his partner. Therefore his decision must pass the test "Is my decision absolutely in my partner's best interest?" Provided every decision made by him passes this test harmony will reign. The man can not use this dominant position the further any agenda that is in his interest alone. For example he can not use it to push the boundaries of your relationship in regard to sex.

It must be clearly and absolutely understood by your partner that you have complete veto of any decision he might make if you feel in anyway it is not in your best interest. Use of such a veto would be very rare and you can not use your veto to misbehave, for example, to go out partying all night if he forbids you to go. You must obey a decision that he has clearly given you out of his love for you. Failure to respect his decision will do serious damage to your relationship.

In a devoted relationship such problems do not arise because of the love and total respect you have for each other. Problems are of very small nature. It is very important that problems that do arise must be dealt with immediately. For example, I would not allow my wife to talk to me in an aggressive tone. If she did I would correct her immediately. I would expect an apology and her to stop talking that way immediately. Equally if I failed to do something I had promised to do, my wife would politely but firmly correct me and I would apologies to her and correct the problem immediately.

You must between yourself create a quick and final way to deal with problems in an honest and caring way. If you always both put your partner first problems will be small, if you have any at all.